He kisses without closing his eyes. Scientists have discovered why people kiss with their eyes closed

A kiss... A merging of lips... A merging of hearts... A sincere expression of feelings between people in love who sympathize with each other.

There are few people in the world who would not like the sensations experienced during a passionate kiss. And hardly anyone can explain why this state delights two completely opposite people called woman and man.

But here’s what’s interesting: kissers, merging their lips together, usually close their eyes. Have you ever wondered: why does this happen and how to explain this phenomenon? Let's try to do this together.

1. Heightened senses

Have you heard about musicians, composers, ordinary people who have lost their sight? Then you should know that blind people have enhanced other senses: touch, charm. The situation is similar here: by closing their eyes, kissers sharpen all their senses and receive untold pleasure.

2. Double pleasure

The guy and girl close their eyes involuntarily, succumbing to passion and instinctively surrendering to pleasure. By closing our eyes, we relax, thereby increasing the pleasure from amazing emotions. There is an opinion that in addition to this, the guy imagines that he is kissing an ideal lady, and the girl imagines that she is kissing an ideal lady, and the girl imagines that she is kissing an exemplary gentleman or knight, whom she read about in novels.

3. Pleasure

When people kiss, their eyelids involuntarily close, as both participants experience incredible pleasure. They say that it is in this case that the kiss becomes sweet and passionate, allowing partners to soar in the clouds, experiencing the feeling of flying. Those who have tried kissing with their eyes open and with their eyes closed claim that the difference between the sensations is incredibly large. Only by closing your eyes can you fly away into unknown distances on the wings of happiness.

4. Trust

Many associate this phenomenon with the relationship between the parties. If partners close their eyes, it means they trust each other completely. If only one of them covers his eyelids, then the other one is unlikely to experience the same feelings and does not trust his partner. In general, many people believe that trust is the first sign of love for another person. Based on this, we can talk about whether there is love between kissing people. Also, most of us believe that real feelings cannot be controlled. This means that people who are truly in love with each other will not be able to control themselves and will definitely close their eyelids.

5. Modesty

Some people think that lovers close their eyes out of excessive modesty. You should not look at your partner, so as not to put him and yourself in an awkward position. Judging by how many immodest people there are in the world who care little about the feelings of others, such a theory is unlikely, although it may be suitable for someone.

6. Theory of vision

According to this theory, when kissing, partners, being at a very close distance, see each other's features in a three-dimensional image. The effect of what he saw is strange: the partner resembles pictures from horror films. To avoid such an unpleasant sight, our subconscious dictates to us that it is better to close our eyes.

7. Opinions of psychologists

Psychologists note that during a kiss, the brain is able to give commands that force partners not to be distracted by external stimuli and other distractions that can interfere with obtaining true pleasure and satisfaction. In addition, the brain also affects hearing during a kiss, causing the couple to not hear anything around them.

Another part of psychologists classifies people who close their eyes during a kiss as romantic natures. It is the romantics who live for today, so they are able to completely surrender to their feelings and get maximum pleasure.

Psychologists have observed people who claim that they are in control of the situation even when kissing, so they do not close their eyes. There were few such people: and all of them either lie or have never kissed.

8. Researcher's opinion

A professor at the Singapore Institute, Yau Che Ming, took a close look at this issue and came to some conclusions:

• People close their eyelids during a kiss to escape reality and focus on the fullness of sensations.
• Second explanation: to relieve yourself of emotional stress.
• The third assumption is similar to the theory of vision: in order not to see the partner’s state and facial expressions so closely.

In general, is it necessary to think about why this happens? Why not allow your body to behave naturally and simply indulge in pleasure, pleasure, sweet sensations? After all, it has been proven that kissing has a positive effect on our health, improving blood circulation and giving people the hormone of happiness. So, kiss your health!

MOSCOW, March 21 - RIA Novosti. Men and women often close their eyes when kissing because the eyes prevent our brains from fully processing the tactile sensations of touching our lips, thereby dulling them, according to an article published in the Journal of Experimental Psychology.

“We have known for quite some time that focusing our efforts on observing something or someone can make other objects in the world almost invisible and inaudible to us. We have shown that the same thing happens with the sense of touch. This is extremely important discovery, since many warning systems use this “channel” of information to transmit data,” said Sandra Murphy from the University of London (UK), whose words are reported by the Daily Telegraph.

Murphy and her colleague Polly Dalton uncovered the secret of closing their eyes during a kiss and found the reason why many people often do not feel the vibrations of their mobile phone at the moment when they are intently looking at something, watching how 16 student volunteers were simultaneously solved visual and tactile tasks.

The setup of the experiment was very simple - a large number of letters were displayed on the computer screen, among which the participants in the experiments had to choose only certain characters. At the same time, vibrators were attached to the volunteers’ hands, which could turn on while searching for symbols on the screen.

Observations of students revealed an unusual thing - the more difficult the visual task became, the faster the symbols flashed, and the more choices the participants had, the worse they perceived tactile sensations. According to the volunteers, their hands seemed to go numb during the experiment, and were less able to sense vibrations and other tactile stimuli.

On average, participants made about twice as many errors in determining which hand was vibrating if they were very busy searching for symbols on the screen, and missed about 10-15% of the vibrations. All this suggests that active use of vision really makes our sense of touch fade into the background.

Such results, according to Murphy and Dalton, suggest that the tactic of using tactile signals in devices that ensure the safety of passengers in cars and other vehicles is erroneous - if the driver concentrates on the road, he simply will not feel the vibration of the steering wheel or pedals. For this reason, British researchers advise car companies to return to the tactic of using sound signals, for which such “muffling” has almost no effect.

More than once, when passing by a couple in love, people catch themselves thinking that kissing occurs with their eyes closed. This begs the question, why is this so? There are several assumptions that help solve this mystery. And they are very interesting and unexpected, but have explanations.

Most guys and girls have a hard time explaining why they close their eyes during a kiss. After all, there is practically no logic or explanation in this; it happens as if automatically, instinctively, out of habit.

During a kiss, such a scene seems more beautiful and correct than a kiss with open eyes. But there are some other moments that make people close their eyes while kissing.

Incredible pleasure from the process

Scientists have conducted studies that have found that when kissing with their eyes closed, people experience double the pleasure. Therefore, there is a certain logic in this and it is difficult to reject it. After all, it is much better to perform actions “in the dark” - this is considered by many to be correct and something extraordinary, if you look from the outside.

Prying eyes

Many are convinced that kissing with closed eyes occurs because from the outside it seems more attractive than kissing with open eyes. It is very difficult to judge whether this information is reliable, but only in practice can you be sure of this. The main thing is not to listen to what others say, not to pay attention to statistics, but to do what you want here and now. If you are comfortable kissing your partner with your eyes open, it does not matter whether it is beautiful or not.

Opinions of others

Probably, it is important for every person what others say. More impressive individuals will not ask why they should close their eyes, they will do it only because someone said it was right. The fact is that eyes close most often automatically, unconsciously, and it is quite difficult to control yourself. Therefore, does it make sense to pay attention to someone’s advice if you yourself know what you get more pleasure from?

In any case, you can listen to more experienced individuals, but you need to make the choice yourself, based on your personal preferences.

Psychology of kissing

Psychologists say that people close their eyes to feel positive emotions, the desire to experience what is happening more vividly. When kissing, the human body intensely releases hormones into the blood - endorphin and adrenaline, which are the cause of pleasant sensations.

What other reasons are noted:

1. The human psyche is designed in such a way that if you turn off one of the senses and eliminate some of the external stimuli, the remaining senses begin to work harder. That is, when a person closes his eyes, extraneous factors are eliminated from the visual perception zone, due to which tastes and smells, touches are felt more clearly, and sounds are heard more sharply. This phenomenon is noted by many, especially blind people, who hear much better than sighted people.
2. This question can also be answered differently by turning to psychology for help. It is believed that amorous and romantic people prefer to kiss with their eyes closed, using their imagination to enhance pleasure.
3. Occasionally, vision loss occurs reflexively. At the moment of closing the eyes, a person involuntarily relaxes his muscles and tunes in to rest. Often a kiss is a prelude to intimacy; it is easier for a person to tune in to sex and fully enjoy this process with his eyes closed.

Psychologists characterize people who like to kiss their partner with their eyes closed as straightforward and sober-minded. Such individuals are not embarrassed by the fact that, upon close examination, the object of adoration seems distorted and a little funny; they are more concerned with control over themselves and the situation as a whole.

Philematology, the science of the peculiarities of kissing, often explains the reluctance to close one’s eyes during the process with curiosity. A person wants to get to know his partner better, and he does this by looking at the kisser, observing his emotions on his face. In addition, peeping can be called an instinct that is inherent in almost everyone.

In any case, a person must decide for himself how he feels more comfortable kissing his partner. If your eyes close automatically during a kiss, why force yourself to try to open them, if someone said that this is more correct. You need to rely only on your opinion, your feelings and impressions.

Kisses can be different, but they are always a means of obtaining positive emotions. Many people close their eyes during a kiss, but what is the reason for this? Perhaps this gives more pleasure? Let's try to figure out what the difference is.

First you need to understand what a kiss with open eyes is like. Its first feature is that a person is forced to look exclusively at the partner’s face. This is not always pleasant, because during the kiss it looks somewhat smeared. Plus, all the minor imperfections in the kisser’s skin appear before your eyes. That's why some people deliberately try to close their eyes while kissing. This reason may seem cynical, but it often occurs.

And if the partner is the spitting image of Brad Pitt, then why do they close their eyes when kissing? The fact is that many people lower their eyelids reflexively, without thinking. But why does this happen? It’s just that in this way the body closes itself to the outside world in order to get maximum pleasure from the kiss. After all, it is known that with open eyes, sensitivity from the kiss itself decreases, and this is not good. But, nevertheless, 1/3 of the population kisses with their eyes open. There are suggestions that such people like to watch their partner, but more often there is another explanation. When a person does not close his eyes during a kiss, it means that he cannot relax.

There may be several reasons. Perhaps he is afraid of the unexpected appearance of strangers or some other unpleasant moments in the external environment. Another reason is constant internal tension - a person always strives to keep the situation under control and manage his feelings. But you shouldn’t necessarily wean your partner from this habit, because it’s just a trait of his character. Another thing is if a person is stressed, then some measures need to be taken to get rid of this condition that prevents you from enjoying a kiss. For example, you can contact a psychologist or arrange an unscheduled weekend to reboot your body.

Whether a person closes their eyes when kissing can speak volumes about their character. Psychologists say that romantic people always kiss with their eyes closed. And if a person has his eyes open at this time, then he is inclined to trust his mind rather than his heart.

There are other answers to the question of why people close their eyes when kissing. Firstly, even suspicious people do not always do this with their eyes open. Sometimes they want to relax, then they lower their eyelids. This happens either when we are talking about passionate kisses, or when a person gets real pleasure from the process and forgets about everything. There are other theories. For example, partners close their eyes when kissing if they consider it an intimate process. That is, the reason may be modesty, according to a professor who conducted research in this area.

By the way, there is even a science that studies the characteristics of a kiss, it is called philematology. If we are talking about the first kiss, then excitement can play an important role. It manifests itself differently for everyone, but it can affect whether an inexperienced partner closes his eyes. In the future, a certain line of behavior during a kiss can become a habit and be repeated unconsciously.

Another assumption is that instinct may serve to close the eyes. But, one might ask, what is the instinct if kissing occurs only in humans? The thing is that the human body perceives the touch of partners’ lips as a sign of imminent copulation. And the instinct of procreation is the driving force for all living beings, so it is not surprising that a person subconsciously wants to concentrate on it. Sometimes the kisser deliberately does not close his eyes to watch his partner.

This behavior can be caused either by idle curiosity or by the desire to get to know the person with whom you are about to build a relationship. This can be a truly effective way if the partner does not suspect that he is being looked at. Psychologists sometimes even recommend spying on your partner.

When you kiss, hormones such as adrenaline, endorphin and others are released in the body, helping a person to be in good shape and receive positive emotions. Scientists have proven that a kiss can relieve stress, and it is especially effective for men.

So, there are different explanations for the phenomenon of closing your eyes during a kiss. Different situations require appropriate behavior. But it is not so important what condition the eyes are in; it is more important that the kiss is pleasant to both partners.

At the moment of a romantic date, people, as a rule, do not think about how the kiss goes, the main thing is that the lovers feel reciprocity and tenderness for each other. However, representatives of the older generation often warn their granddaughters: be careful, don’t kiss with your eyes open, this is absolutely forbidden. To the logical question why, the answer often follows: “Love will pass right away.” Is this so and how do open eyes during a kiss affect love?

An ancient belief about love

Superstitious Slavs diligently protected their feelings from outside influences and prying glances. In this regard, many superstitions and beliefs arose that, as people believed, helped protect feelings from ill-wishers. It was believed that love and everything connected with it are secret and intimate feelings, so any intervention could violate the sacrament and harm the lovers. One should kiss only with one's eyes closed; eyes open during a kiss symbolized the partner's insufficiently deep feeling and prudence. That’s why mothers and grandmothers warned their children quietly behind the stove: “As he kisses you, close your eyes...”

Modern science about the physiology of kissing

Psychologists and physiologists find a modern, rational explanation for the fact that when kissing you should still close your eyes.

Firstly, at the moment of a kiss, a person’s brain experiences a significant sensory load; if at the same time the eyes remain open, then this contributes to additional stress on the brain. Such a double impact causes severe fatigue, and after a kiss a person will not feel euphoria and uplift, but rather fatigue and apathy.

Secondly, when the object approaches the eyes significantly, the contours blur and the image is greatly distorted. If at least one of the partners leaves his eyes open, then he sees the features of his beloved distorted, which will not give the person aesthetic pleasure. A kiss with the look of your partner's blurry face will not add romanticism to the relationship, which can lead to a quick breakup between lovers.

Thirdly, it was believed that at the moment of a kiss a person should completely relax and not control his emotions, but completely go into the world of sensations and sensuality. If the partner opens his eyes at the moment of the kiss, then the other person will feel awkward and embarrassed, fearing that uncontrolled emotions will make his face unattractive. Over time, such controlled kisses can become boring, and feelings will wane. This is how the ancient belief comes true that opening eyes during a kiss harms relationships.

Psychologists' opinion

Modern psychology, for its part, recommends that its clients open their eyes slightly during a kiss, as they say, “control the process.” From a psychological point of view, it is believed that romantic, superficial and easily carried away natures close their eyes during the kiss. Such people tend to be carried away into the world of feelings and emotions, without thinking about the consequences. That’s why they attribute inconstancy to such partners. Those who kiss without closing their eyes, from the point of view of some psychologists, are reliable, authoritarian natures, accustomed to controlling everything in their lives, responding to changes in a timely and correct manner. But does a partner need such authoritarianism and universal control? Not everyone prefers to be controlled, which is why relationships can easily deteriorate due to such dissimilarity of characters and desires. Therefore, before spying on your partner at the moment of a kiss, you should understand for yourself whether your lover is ready to take complete control over his life.